Given that we’ve left the EU, I’m noticing two voices in me:
1. INCLUSIVITY: This is a place of acceptance and hope… where things just might be ok. Democracy is working. I feel compassion for my fellow citizens. I’m curious about what’s underneath.
2. EXCLUSION: This is about rejection and absolute certainty: I’m right and they’re wrong. Democracy is weakened. I retreat into a smaller, safer world. When things go wrong, I say “I told you so.”
Using an ORSC coaching lens, these can be seen as two voices of my personal system. It’s important for all voices to be heard, yes absolutely. And then a question surfaces: which voice am I consciously choosing to step into?
Global Warriors shares a story from Cherokee culture that might point toward an answer:
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, there is a terrible battle between two “wolves” inside all of us.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked, “Which wolf wins, grandfather?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”